What if? How many times do you say this to yourself? If you’re dreaming of possibilities and ready to move forward to a better place then by all means, keep saying it. By that I mean something like what if I could start my own business, go back to school, learn to do something new, be a better person, help more people etc. etc. Now…get up and start doing something about it. But, if like most people you’re spending your time thinking about what if things had been different or what if I had done this or that or said this or that instead, or what if I lose my house, spouse, friends, money, whatever, then it’s time to change your thinking. I saw a quote the other day that said “ you are not your past, but who you choose to be right now.” I love this quote. While it’s true that our past shaped us into who we are today by our experiences, too many of us get stuck in who we were or who we thought we wanted to be. Stuck in the what if things had been different mode. Or afraid to change because what if something bad happens or because we might fail, or because someone else won’t approve. The simple truth is that none of us are who we were yesterday. Each day our experiences shape us into who we are today. And today we as always, we have a choice about who we are and what we do with our lives. We have a choice about how we respond to people and situations. We have a choice to change things that aren’t working. So what if instead of dwelling on something you can’t change or worring about something that may never happen, you start thinking about possibilities? What if you let go of regret, shame, guilt and fear and start chosing who you are right now? What if today you decide to just accept those things you can’t change and enjoy the way things are or change the things you don’t like? What if?